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Here is an interesting tips from Dale Carnegie on working with ‘the boss from hell’ :

1. Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. When I was young and would get angry that another child made fun of me, my grandmother often said, "Oh, he’s just jealous." It’s true. Sometimes people are so insecure in their own success that they criticise others as a way to make their own mistakes seem smaller. If he’s unjustly criticising you, the people he’s talking to will eventually figure it out.This may be the reason behind his criticism of your personal life as well. Maybe he’s never been in the same situations — having a parent die, for example. Or perhaps he feels guilty that he didn’t take more time off when his own father died. Maybe your happiness at becoming a parent reminds him of mistakes he’s made in his own parenting. There’s no way to know for sure, but it’s possible he’s not being mean, he’s just being terribly insecure.

2. Do the very best you can . You can’t control his attitude or what he says about you. But you can control how well you perform your job. That is bound to be noticed by the people in head office.

3. Fill your mind with thoughts of peace, courage, health and hope. Go beyond the daily nuisances caused by this man and look at life’s nobler goals. Consciously choose to become a calm, content person who has the self-confidence to let others’ criticisms roll off.

4. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view. Put yourself in his place — with all its stresses and concerns –and you may find some clues to his behaviour. It doesn’t excuse what he does, of course, but your empathy might start to break down the barriers he’s put up.

5. Count your blessings. I tell this to a lot of people but I don’t feel we remember often enough to focus on the good in our lives. A loving family, for example, brings rewards that go well beyond any job.